I had the extraordinary opportunity today to experience something that happens every so often. Have come across a day where everything is seemingly ok? Nothing is wrong with your life but, you’re feeling melancholy. Bed seems like a very good friend, and although you could eat, you don’t have the energy to get up, take out pots and pans (if they’re clean), figure out what you want to cook, and then cook it.
Taking on the day feels like a crushing endeavor and really, the bed is warm and cozy. Nothing looks more enticing than staying in bed, death scrolling through your favorite social media account, and ordering takeout from one of the many food delivery services.
Can I just say nothing is wrong with you? You don’t deserve this discomfort with living, you aren’t lazy, you aren’t a good-for-nothing, and you certainly aren’t a failure. You’re human. We are allowed to have a down day, an off day. Contrary to popular belief, one does not need to be productive every hour of every day, to be a good, life-loving human.
I’ve experienced these days so many times that I know this now. I know that this feeling will pass and that (even though my brain is swimming in a self-doubting concoction of unworthy juice), I am going to be ok. You will be ok.
Once I accept that this is the type of day I’m going to have, a weight seems to lift off my shoulders. I don’t feel better, per se, however, the guilt of non-production fades away. Once the guilt fades, the healing can begin to take place. Instead of ordering pizza and cursing at myself for eating too much, I give myself permission to enjoy something maybe unhealthy, and put on a good movie. I breath in an understanding that I am alive, there’s air in my lungs, and I will be ok. I recognize the feelings I am experiencing and let them wash over me in acceptance.
So, this is the way I accept my emotional down days. If you keep reading, I will tell you how I bring the negative to more of a neutral, if not a positive vibe for the rest of the day.
It is simple. Take a walk.
That’s it! Take. A. Walk.
I find if I make my way outside one step at the time, and don’t overthink it, I can change my outlook on the rest of the day. I promise you, go outside, get some fresh air and some sun rays, and let those endorphins flow!
Releasing endorphins boosts mental health, decreases sensitivity to stress and pain, and can also lead to feelings of euphoria.
I do this every time I’m feeling low. Putting on my shoes and going for a 20-minute walk leads to a better day. Give it a shot!